Dear Nocketback,

Dear Nocketback,
I think I’m in love with my buddy’s girlfriend. I feel like an ass because he’s a good friend, we’ve known each other since grade school. I’m not exactly sure if she likes me back but every time I come around she always wants to talk and hang out, sometimes without my friend with us. What should I do? How can I get rid of these feelings? I like her more than any girl I’ve dated. Got any advice?
--My Best Friend’s Girlfriend

Dear MBFG,

Dear Nocketback—February

Dear Nocketback,
I work with this guy “so & so”, he’s older than me by degrees and has asked, on numerous occasions, if he can take me on vacation with him, no strings attached; yet, every time I see him at work, he’s hitting on me. I would normally NEVER do something like this, but he said he’ll take me to Jamaica. I’ve never been and it has been one of my dreams to go. I know I could never afford this on my own, ever. My friends have told me if I go, I’d basically be whoring myself out. What do you think?
All Expenses Paid

Dear AEP,

Dear Nocketback,
The reason I’m writing is twofold. Firstly, I’ve been thinking of living a more simple, spiritual lifestyle. You know, settle down a bit, stop drinking so frequently, maybe become active in my community church. Do you think this is a healthy lifestyle change or am I fooling myself? Secondly, I’ve lost someone very close to me recently and feel that by going out with someone again so early would be a bit unsavory and immoral; I do like him, though; what do I do?

Mulling Over in Merced

Dear MOiM,